Meet My Husband

Adam and I got married the other day. It was fun! And it was very local: Thanks to the folks at Locanda Verde, Bowne Printers, the Smyth, North End Grill, the J. Crew Ludlow Shop, and ManuelRacim for their help. (Mentioning them all makes it sound like they gave us stuff for free in exchange for publicity, when they didn’t—I just liked how neighborhood-y the weekend was).

None of that, however, would normally be enough to justify a post on this site. I’m writing about my wedding because—well, the toast we made explains it.

“There are lots of ways to get married,” Laurie Anderson wrote about her relationship with Lou Reed. “Some people marry someone they hardly know—which can work out, too. But when you marry your best friend of many years, there should be another name for it.”

We call it “the only way we can agree on an anniversary date,” since the original one, eleven years ago, remains in dispute.

Our marriage, as splendid as it’s sure to be, would not have been possible in 36 states. (And anyone who has shopped and shopped for a brideless wedding card knows that society isn’t exactly up to speed.) So when people ask you how your weekend was, please tell them that you went to a wedding with two grooms and no one burst into flames. Better yet, announce it on Facebook. You’re even allowed to break our no-phones-at-dinner rule and do it now. Talking about this, sharing it, is what makes it normal.

“The thing that surprised me about getting married,” Laurie Anderson went on to say, “was the way it altered time. And also the way it added a tenderness that was somehow completely new.”

We’d like to make a toast to embracing new and old, simultaneously.

Tribeca being pretty enlightened, I doubt there are many of you who object to marriage equality. Not objecting, however, isn’t actually enough. Despite all the progress—astounding progress!—that has been made in recent years, my people and I need you to actively, and loudly, support us. (Donating to the cause is nice, too.)



  1. Congratulations! Very happy for you and Adam!

  2. Congratulations to you both! You are a power of example and I wish you all the best. My husband and I married in DC just a month before it became legal in NYS; too late for us to change venues, but it was an amazing and powerful event nonetheless. Thank you for sharing your love with us!

  3. Congratulations!!

  4. Congratulations Erik and Adam! Truly happy for you both!

  5. Congratulations and best wishes to the *hot* and happy couple!

  6. Beautiful photo!!!! I was wondering if it had happened this past weekend. And you’re still updating your blog! Shouldn’t you be on your honeymoon?

  7. Congratulations! Wishing you both a lifetime of love, laughter and happiness together!

  8. Congratulations!

  9. Thanks, everyone! @KP: We honeymooned at I Sodi in the West Village.

  10. That sounds like a super short, super chaste honeymoon!

  11. @KP: You’ve obviously never been to I Sodi with me.

  12. May your happiness increase with every year together.

    Many congratulations!

  13. Fantastic news! Congratulations to both of you! Your toast is a wonderful expression of love and an inspiration for all of us supporters who can and should do more to support our friends and neighbors. Thank you.

  14. Cheers! All the best wishes to you both.

  15. Congrats buddy, you both look amazing

  16. Congrats Erik!

  17. Congratulations and best wishes for a wonderful future… Cowabunga! Aloha Nui Loa, Aileen

  18. Fantastic, Erik. So happy for you both.

  19. Congratulations! WIshing you a wonderful happy and healthy life together! xo
    Stacy and

  20. Love is always a welcomed word, celebration of two lives joined together to live as one. I wish you many happy years together, being married sometimes , somedays may not be as happy as others but if you take the time to remember why you fell in love and how you felt on the day you wed it will help you remain together for a life time.

  21. Congratulations! Love the toast, love the photo. Loudly and actively supporting.
    P.S. How was Howard as a ringbearer?

  22. This is beautiful! Congratulations to you both! x

  23. Mazal tov, as they say in the old country.

    Wonderful news, and wishing you both the very best!

  24. Great picture, great couple! And I wish you the greatest happiness!

  25. Cheers to you and Adam!

  26. Congratulations!

    So happy that you did – and that you can!

  27. The impressive thing is you kept the newsletter going ALL weekend.
    You’re a tremendous multitasker!

  28. Congratulations Erik!

  29. congratulations, warmly. I got married after 15+ years and was surprised at how much fun it was, and how much more it brought to us. A virtual toast to you two.

  30. Congratulations!

  31. Congrats Erik & Adam! (And, for the record, we carry several brideless and groomless wedding cards!) ;)

  32. Beautiful couple, hence the beautiful photo. Congratulations!!!

  33. Cheers to you, Adam and Erik! Best wishes for many more happy years (hopefully in Tribeca!)!!

  34. Congratulations to you and Adam. When I heard everyone congratulating you at the CB meeting last night, I thought you had won a Pulitzer but this is a far happier occasion than that!!! (which can come later). Long life and happiness to you both.

  35. Congrats you two. Welcome to the club :)

  36. Congratulations to you both. May you have a long happy life in Tribeca together.

  37. Congratulations! May your new tax status bring you much happiness for years to come. And it’s down to 35 states now. Slowly but surely.

  38. Wow, quite a “scroll down” to post here, but I like the tie in to Lou Reed (RIP), the personal touch, the photo and of course the venues you selected which celebrated with you. Congratulations on now being more formally “legal”! Erik

  39. Wonderful news from a wonderful newsman! Congratulations and wishing you both all the best…

  40. Congratulations Erik! What a wonderful post to read first thing in the morning!

  41. Congratulations Erik and Adam, wishing you a lifetime of happiness.

  42. Congratulations Erik! All the best to you and Adam, may you continue to have many wonderful years together!

  43. Congratulations, Eric. Marriage is a wonderful thing!

  44. Congrats to the happy couple! You guys look so handsome and happy.
    Wishing you both happiness, great adventures and funny moments together!

  45. Congrats!!! Yay!!! Sto Lat!

  46. Your post gave me chills. Beautifully written and a beautiful thing. Congratulations!

  47. Congratulations! Wishing you happiness and health. BYW, you can now honeymoon in Hawaii and feel good about it.